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Re: How to tell a roommate they reek?

Darla Mitchell 86 — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 22:45:33 -0000

my friend doesn't bathe very often, wears his smelly shirts over and over again without washing them and he does not wear deodorant. His smell has rubbed off on my love seat and the smell remains and does not go away. Lucky I have a slip cover which I take off and wash, but I have to spray febreeze on the frabric underneath the loveseat because it is seeping through. Whenever he goes to hug me goodbye I want to throw up! Whenever I talk to him on the phone, see a picture of him or think of him I can smell him! The nasty smell is embedded in my memory and I cant get rid of it! I have purchased a pet throw cover for my loveseat and I am hoping that it will keep his smell off of my couch and then I can just put the throw in the washing machine instead of the whole slip cover. Everytime he comes over and sits on my couch I cringe when he stretches out his arms and wraps his smelly armpits around the arms of the couch and lays his stinky head on the cushions. He does the same thing to the seat in my car too. Everytime I see him I tell myself he isnt going to smell this time, but it happens eveytime and it has been going on for two years. I cant take it anymore, why should I have to go through so much trouble and spend my money and suffer because he is so lazy! I am afraid to say anything to him because I am afraid it will be the end of our friendship. He already thinks that I am mean and hard on him. I am afraid he is just going to get defensive and turn it around by saying I am just critical. He is abnormally lazy and that is why he doesnt bathe often or wash his clothes often enough. He has admitted that he only showers every three days, but I believe that often it is even longer than that. One time in a phone message he mentioned something in his message about needing to bathe more often, this was the perfect opportunity but I didnt say anything because I couldnt get up the courage. One time though when he said he bathes every three days, I remarked and said, "is it really fair that your roommates should have to smell you" and he got defensive and said that he didnt have body odor. I just left it at that. I havent returned his calls recently because I have decided that I have to say something to him, but I dont want to face it yet. I am very depressed over this but I dont want to suffer anymore. I am a very clean person and his smell lingering on my furniture is the last straw! One time when I went to pick him up to go somewhere he said, "I hope I dont smell, I havent showered in awhile, so I just splashed cold water on my face before I left the house so I could at least feel like a human being" This was another opportunity for me, but instead I didnt say anything for fear of how he would react.

Re: My thoughts on the Eko light (progress bar + traffic lights)

Turning Winds — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 04:06:23 -0000

Thanks for giving this eyeopener. Seems this is for safety purposes and Eko light is a great product to be used. Thanks for sharing.

Re: Movie theater seating etiquette

hometheaterguy — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 16:24:05 -0000

I agree I have seat like these in my home theater and I don't let my family sit next to me either
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Re: How to tell a roommate they reek?

Christopher Schnese — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 12:22:52 -0000

Thankfully I don't have to worry about it anymore because he no longer lives with us.

Re: How to tell a roommate they reek?

Christopher Schnese — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 12:22:18 -0000

That is always the catch in any roommate situation. Do I put up with the person or do I get rid of them and hope desperately that I can find a new one.

And then, there's always the chance that the new roommate will be worse! Or at least just as bad...

Re: How to tell a roommate they reek?

JDawg — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 12:17:17 -0000

After about 3 weeks of searching, i found out what my roommate reeks of...filthy socks, ball sweat, b.o. and some musty flavor....its terrible...and he's got a medical condition, so i don't know if that causes it or if he just stinks...he showers daily..idk if he actually cleans himself while he's in there...also not sure if he cleans his towels, bedsheets or clothes often...FML!!! and i don't want to kick him out, cuz i don't want to have to find another roommate...

Re: How to tell a roommate they reek?

Jeremy — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 12:09:56 -0000

for his birthday or just a random gift, get him like 4 bottles of febreeze...or shampoo...

Re: How to tell a roommate they reek?

Christopher Schnese — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 08:58:56 -0000

Yeah, that is rough. Luckily for me, I wasn't forced to remain in the same room as him the entire time. Thankfully I had a room over at the complete opposite room of the house that I could retreat to and quickly shove guests into before they were exposed to the rest of the house.

And I definitely feel you on the "necessary evil" of that location. I was already graduated when I moved into this house, but the rent is so cheap that I would never even dream of moving (you know, except for "next step of life" type stuff). I just had to deal with this roommates crap continually repeating to myself how cheap it was to live here.

I wish my two years of experience with theses situations could afford me some advice, but theses situations are tough. It always seems like you have two choices with the same outcome:

1) Be nice about it and nothing ever happens
2) Be a dick about it and not only does nothing happen, but then you're a dick.

I do have one piece of advice though. I've noticed that once you find something that bugs you about a person, the more things they do you start to lump into that category. I've had to try really hard to evaluate each interaction with some of my roommates and judge them each individually. I've noticed that because I now expect them to do something that's annoying, I've begun to interpret more of their actions as annoying (even if I previously did not think them to be).

Well, thanks of for the comment! I wish you luck with your situation.

Re: How to tell a roommate they reek?

zakk — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 12:28:59 -0000

This story is identical to mine, except my stories worse. I live in a quad (with three people) so it's pretty spacious, but just one room. Both of my roommates were like this, and I've talked with both of them. One of them is always in the room and the other one I rarely see. When I talked to the roommate who's always in the room, he understood and has since started showering more frequently, but just enough where the odor of the other roommate to cover it up. When I talked to the roommate who's never in the room, he seemed to take the hint and showered the next day, but that's been the only time I've seen him actually go take a shower! He's only in the room from around 11pm to 10am and he just destroys the room. He leaves his dirty socks on the floor, and doesn't change his clothes. He never showers, and I don't think he owns deodorant. Nothing can cover up this smell and I'm pretty sure it sticks to my clothing and such. I hate it. He's so lazy and doesn't care about personal hygiene. I never bring friends up to the room, which sucks because I often have weekends to myself so I can't even throw a party or invite friends from home without being embarrassed. And to add to his disgusting stench and lack of being clean, he doesn't clean up his trash, ever! I've had to throw away his shit because he just leaves it everywhere. I've asked him to at least take out his trash and he says 'oh yeah, I'll do it' and doesn't. I'd move out, but frankly, this floor is allowing me to survive engineering because we all take similar classes and can help each other out with homework and all of us respect quietness for studying and such. FML

Re: The next best thing to Ironman's HUD system

Max Laing — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 16:57:12 -0000

Actually, I would be all about the brain implant. It is an expression of our natural evolution. Of course, most of us can't get over the 'virtual bump' of allowing a definition of 'natural' to contain anything 'electronic'. I offer that if we were not animated by our own form of electricity then we would be little more than bags of water. Our prejudice stems from, at its core, gooey circuitry vs rigid circuitry. Seriously, when you take the emotion out of the argument and look upon this possibility through the eyes of binary logic, the expression of this like, this new tie-in to data and the subsequent manipulation of what becomes available, is a 'natural fit' and, in alignment with every definition that can be applied, an 'evolution'. A decision of growth, if nothing more.

Now, this is not to assume that such evolvement is for everyone. At least not everyone that might have been born before such technological advancements were available. However, children born in certain regions throughout the world are done so with a predisposition to process many foods that their ancestors learned to process generations back. Foods that, frankly would kill most of the rest of us living on the same planet. That said, I cannot help but wonder what will be considered 'natural' after a few generations of implants become 'the way to the light'. Specifically, it is easy to believe that at some point, we will be blessed from the moment of being born with such an implant to control and enjoy 'augmented reality'. The very next step would be to provide the connection weeks - if not months - before that. If we are to believe that our physiology does ever truly change, I expect that neural connections of expectation would become a 'function' of the future brains of mankind 'looking for' - if not 'seeking' or 'desiring' the connection to augmented reality. Yes, quite natural, indeed. Or at least it shall become so. In that light, what IS natural? And why the concern?

This is the beginning, folks. It is our ticket to the really big show. And we can sit outside the arena proclaiming our desire to remain ignorant, carrying big signs on sticks while declaring our dedication to the 'have nots' - or - we can pull our collective heads out of our asses and gaze upon the future with wonderment and embrace our rightful roles as co-creators in this 'Uni verse' - this 'one song' - by taking these initial baby steps of accomplishment as presented by a great many that we are fortunate to give witness to through the likes of TED.

Sincerely and without hesitation,

Max Laing
CEO / Project Development
ActionCore, Inc. and Allowing Success

Re: Yes, those arrows painted in the parking lots DO actually mean something

Turning Winds — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 19:28:31 -0000

I've got a good point! I don't think that they could miss those painted arrows.

Re: Yes, those arrows painted in the parking lots DO actually mean something

Erika — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 12:06:28 -0000

We could not agree with you more.
Love, Popeyes and G'ma E.

Re: The tragic loss of domains to expiration

TeenWildernessProg — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 20:25:07 -0000

I've got a problem regarding my domain. I've got a domain that nearly expire so got to renew it. My domain is already renewed and transaction is done but when the expiration arrived my domain automatically expired. I tried to send an e-mail to get on this concerned and it takes about 2 weeks to make it active again. My pagerank gone down and I'm wondering how it this happen. I've read an article and saw that when the domain expire the PR comes along with it and it was called "hijacking". So need to start all over again.

Re: On relationships, failure rates, and asking the right question

Amanda — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 17:43:27 -0000

I've re-read this post several times now, because on the one hand I think you're right, and on the other hand, this post depresses me. So I guess I just wanted to say thanks for a really thought-provoking post. Even after reading it, I still followed some of the same thoughts before remembering what you said and wondering how much better things would be if you just let the chips fall as they may...

Re: On the holiday and giving thanks

Amanda — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 17:40:57 -0000

Happy Thanksgiving! I hear ya on just being thankful for the pieces in the puzzle of life :) I'm thankful for you...even though it's been a while. I hope you are well.

Re: Officially back after the hack

Dave — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 09:49:19 -0000

Awesome to see that you're back up! The new theme looks great! I still haven't had the time to look at the old theme yet - sorry, its been super busy. Maybe at lunch today I can take a look...

Re: No turn on red, except sometimes

Nate KW — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 11:47:01 -0000

Yeah, I know what you mean...anytime I see a sign next to a stop light (as shown in your picture), I just stop and wait. Funny you should write this as I was honked at yesterday for stopping at an actual "no turn on red" sign.

Re: No turn on red, except sometimes

jesse — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 10:24:48 -0000

I think the no turn on red signs are intended to prevent a stretch of road after the sign from filling up with 2 other roads worth of traffic at the same time.

Re: Scribblenauts: Write Anything. Solve Everything.

Christopher Schnese — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 21:29:30 -0000

I've been having a lot of fun with it. Half the time I don't even attempt to complete the level I'm on. I just play around with scribbling in different objects.

It's really fun to create one thing and then destroy it with something else. It's also fun to try to solve the puzzle in the most ridiculous, Team America inspired way possible.

It would be really cool if you could connect two DSs and do a weird battle mode where you and another person take turns trying to counter each other's attacks.

Re: Why do comics and graphic novels get such a bad rap?

Christopher Schnese — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 21:24:42 -0000

I have not read it, but I've seen the cover several times and wondered about it. Thanks for the suggestion. I actually just got back from Barnes & Noble where I picked up the 2 volume boxed set!

Re: Why do comics and graphic novels get such a bad rap?

Dave — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 09:09:50 -0000

I agree that Graphic Novels are a truly unappreciated medium. Have you ever read Maus I and II by Art Spiegelman? Its an incredibly well done graphic novel about Art interviewing his father about his experiences during World War II as a Jewish refuge. Art really uses the visual frames to evoke emotion and mood in a way that text alone could never really accomplish.

Re: Scribblenauts: Write Anything. Solve Everything.

Stephen — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 04:19:03 -0000

A friend of mine showed me this a few days ago. I was completely blown away by how vast their graphics library was. We spent a while trying to stump it (without words that are obviously obscure), and really couldn't. I love that sort of "free input" approach. When you're playing a game with just a handful of buttons and clear instructions, it's all about skill. But with a game like this, or those old text-based adventure games where you need to figure out what the commands are yourself, the sky is the limit. You could play for as many hours as you'd like, and never know if you've exhausted all the possibilities. It's enough to make me want to go out and buy a DS.

Re: How to tell a roommate they reek?

Christopher Schnese — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 11:24:36 -0000

Yeah, that sucks. I'm almost happy someone else has to deal with it too, but mostly just sorry.

When people live in their own filth/stench, that's fine. So long as it's completely self contained. When they don't even notice it and it's directly effecting other people, that's beyond tolerable.

Lucky for me, my roommate has gotten a lot better recently. And I now have the master bedroom with my own bathroom, so I don't have to worry about sharing with him anymore.

I wish you luck and hope your situation improves.

Re: How to tell a roommate they reek?

Ash — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 09:31:00 -0000

The post sounds EXACTLY like the problem I am having with my roommate. I moved in 8 months ago and the entire time his smell has just radiated through the house. He doesn't shower everyday and i have tried dropping the hints. I got him shower gels and deoderants saying that they came as a "His and Hers" package but I can't even tell if he is using them.
It has got the point where I won't bring people into my apartment. My boyfriend went home the other day and called me when he got home saying that he could smell it on his clothes! And on some of mine sometimes.

The house is in the perfect spot and is just perfect for me, but like you, he is dense, can't take a hint and smells like something from another planet.

I feel your pain...

Re: A rude awakening

Dave — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 10:48:29 -0000

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